Be a Great Wedding Guest

I’m going on the assumption that if you are attending a wedding, you like the people getting married enough to make an appearance and celebrate their happiness.

Perhaps you were very generous with a monetary gift, or traveled a few hundred miles to attend the shindig. These are obvious gestures that the couple means something to you.

Don’t undermine your efforts by failing to show respect during the ceremony. Be consistent in showing your love and respect to the couple by being polite during their ceremony.

Eloping in Atlantic City, NJ

Thinking of eloping in Atlantic City, NJ? As a NJ business owner, it breaks my heart to say it, but Atlantic City, NJ is not an elopement friendly destination in the way that Las Vegas is.

It should be, but it isn’t, and if you are among the many visitors attracted to Atlantic City from out of town, looking for a little nightlife, a little gambling, beaches and a boardwalk, with a beach wedding and a built in honeymoon, there are a few things you need to know:

NJ Clergy or Civil Celebrant

My best articles result after a couple asks a good question.

Recently, a potential couple posed this question to me:

“Hi –  I saw on your site that you are ordained through the ulc.  Does nj consider you clergy or are you a civil celebrant meeting the requirements of nj’s marriage law (listed below). Thanks!”

(Wedding date and couple’s name removed by me for their privacy.)

In answer to them and anyone else who has this question, here is my response:

Thank you for your insightful question.

Write Your Own Wedding Vows

As a wedding officiant, I encourage my couples to write their own wedding vows, with some guidance. If you decide to write your own vows, bear in mind that the vows need to satisfy basic legal requirements so that the validity of the marriage ceremony will not fall into question. Sometimes couples are so excited to share how they feel while writing their vows, they forget to acknowledge that they are entering into a marital union. For this reason, always run your vows past your officiant well before the wedding day. If the officiant suggests you edit some of the wording, do not think it’s because they are being mean, critical, or want to ruin your prose. It’s because they want you to be legally married.

Wedding Day Procedures

Please read the following information in its entirety because it includes a lot of information about wedding day procedures. It would be a good idea to print out and have as reference. Neglecting to read it may result in regrets.


Something may go wrong, in fact, something usually does. But the idea is to keep those bloopers on the negligible side by keeping certain things in your own control and making them a priority.

This is a very exciting time for you and I want your wedding ceremony to go smoothly. This document also includes a rehearsal procedure so please read it in its entirety.